Strawberry Letter: I Did Not Sign Up For This BS
Hi Steve, Shirley & the rest of the gang,
My husband and I have been married for six years. Right away we knew that we wanted to start a family. We both are in our early 30s. After trying for a year after we were married we got pregnant. You can imagine how excited and thrilled we were. According to my husband you would have thought that I was the only woman who had ever been pregnant. So we were deeply hurt when I miscarried at nine weeks. We waited until we got the OK from my doctor before we tried again. After trying for months we got pregnant again and again I miscarried. This was more than either one of us could handle.
After the 2nd miscarriage I started having female problems and I had to have a hysterectomy. My husband withdrew from me as though I had done this on purpose. Whenever we made love which was rare it was cold and impersonal. I suggested counseling but he refused. In one of our rare conversations I suggested adoption. His response was he didn’t want someone else’s “throw away.” He didn’t want to have to go out and “pay” for a child because he wanted his own baby. I could not believe what I was hearing. Well this didn’t go over too well with me to say the least.
Guess what? He had an affair and got a woman pregnant. The baby was born 3 months ago and he wants me to help him fight for full custody of his child. So when I brought the subject of adoption back to him and what he had said he stated that this is different because it is his child. DNA proved that. I know that the child didn’t have anything to do with this but I don’t want to raise my husband’s child which he created after we were married and when he was mad at me. I am about packed and out the door.
What in the world am I supposed to do? By the way when he brings the baby to the house I leave.
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