Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am a 40 something divorced woman. As a teen in the 80s, a neighborhood boy expressed an interest in me. At that time, I found out that he had a baby on the way by another neighborhood girl. I later ignored his efforts to get my attention since my parents were strict and did not approve of me being involved with him because of the teen pregnancy. Later, I went to college, graduated, and then got married and he had several more children and is currently married. I have been divorced for about ten years now and I still see him whenever I visit my parents. I have explained to him that I have no interest in him since he is married. I don’t want to be the reason for any misunderstanding in his marriage since I experienced the same thing from my husband’s infidelity that lead to my divorce. He has tried numerous times to get my phone number, tried to find out where I live and has gone to great lengths to make it known that he has an interest in me by talking with some of our childhood friends. His mother even says that one day we will be together. I am not interested in his baggage nor do I want to be another notch in his belt. How can I make him fully understand that I am not interested, clearly because he is married with kids? I don’t want to be involved in this web of confusion.
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