According to mental health experts, when you learn something interesting and new, it sparks something in you that is very much akin to desire. Similarly, successful couples can tap into this and keep the relationship interesting by not being afraid to experience new things together.
Which activities? It doesn’t really matter. Just make the effort to keep learning and growing as a couple.
2. Don’t Forget Who You Are
Many people, especially women, often fall into a dangerous pattern of pushing their lives off to the side and letting their relationships dominate everything. The problems with this are, a) you make yourself less of a priority, which isn’t fair to you, and can often lead to resentment, and b) this tendency can lead to depending too much on another person for your happiness and well-being, which isn’t fair to you or your partner, and can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction…and becoming annoyingly needy.
Plus, being more confident and owning who you are can actually be an extremely sexy thing to your partner:
“When I see my partner on their own, doing the thing in which they are enveloped, I look at this person and I momentarily get a shift of perception and I stay open to the mysteries that are standing right next to each other,” says psychologist and Mating in Captivity author Esther Perel.
3. Understand The Real Reason You’re In A Relationship
In olden times, people mostly got matched up for security and safety. But these aren’t as much the dominating factors today. These days, people get married because they want to feel personally fulfilled through companionship with someone special.
According to experts, this is actually a very good thing, since a marriage based on seeking fulfillment has a much better chance of actually being successful and, well, fulfilling.
The trick to making this work? Investing time and energy into the relationship, and communicating with each other honestly about expectations and needs.
Everlasting Love: 3 Ways To Actually Make It Happen was originally published on elev8.com