Strawberry Letter: My Man Best Friend is Tempting My Man!
Good morning Steve and Shirley,
I am a 33 year old with a good career, mother of 3 and I care for my disabled mom. I was looking for Mr. Right in all the wrong places, all the while he was right in front of me. My 35 year old significant other is wonderful. He’s good with my kids, good to me, my family loves him and I love him. We share similar goals and dreams and everything had been going smoothly. He doesn’t look at other women when we are together and we have discussed our future together. The problem is his best friend. This guy tried to hook him up with girls, before we got together.
We’ve been together for 8 months and my man went on a “pre-us” planned vacation to Puerto Rico with his best friend, best friend’s baby momma and a girl they tried to hook him up with. He claims nothing happened between him and the girl and despite my disbelief, there is no proof otherwise. He spends every weekend with me and at least 3 weeknights. Last week he mentioned he was going to visit his best friend who lives 2 hours away and I said it was fine. Well at the last minute, he tells me the best friend’s baby momma was going to be there and also the girl they tried to hook him up with in Puerto Rico. I started to feel uncomfortable.
He claims he is not interested in the girl and I know I satisfy him, so I shouldn’t feel insecure. But something is not right here. We are in a relationship, so should I just be okay with him going on this weekend trip and hang out with this woman? Am I overreacting? If the roles were reversed I know he wouldn’t feel comfortable. Help, I’m lost and confused and don’t know what else to do. There’s another thing you should know: He has not told me he loves me yet.
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