Strawberry Letter: Loving A Man That Loves Men…

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I am in desperate need of understanding.  Have times become so simple that a man would go through courting a woman, ask her to marry him, then divorce her within six months.  We were engaged once before I called it off due to issues with his mother.  We slowly began to see each other again.  He told me he loved me and couldn’t live without me and vowing to put his mother in check, he popped the question again.  This time things seemed wonderful.  Soon after the honeymoon resistance from his mother returned and was very visible.  Then it hit the fan. After just two months he told me that he made a mistake and wanted a divorce.  My heart dropped and I was crushed.  Leaving me to figure this out on my own he has only  reiterated that something was hidden and he is not the same man I married.  He has also become very bitter toward me.  I was a good wife, so I am confused.  I also found out he is a LIAR.  He began lying to the courts to gain favor for a quick hearing.  At this point I am on the edge.  I have already had to deal with the “I told you so’s” and the talking behind my back.  How can someone be so cruel?  Steve it’s almost as if he wants to see me so low, that I have to look up to see down.  I do not understand how he vowed to love and then turned to hate.  This man was my life for almost 10 years.  How do I move past him and not lose myself?  Please help!

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