Subject: Worn Out Husband
I am a 45 year married man with 2 beautiful girls. I’ve been married for 15 years, most of them happy, but now feel worn out and angry. I want a divorce, but I can’t tell her yet because she has been unemployed for about a year. My wife is a spoiled brat and always wants her way. She doesn’t compromise, doesn’t pay attention to my emotional needs, and always thinks she’s right. Although I don’t want to be married to her anymore, I still care about her and think she is a good mother, attractive, classy, and intelligent. She was the breadwinner and because of this I don’t think I got the respect I deserved. I have catered to her during our marriage because I enjoyed seeing her happy, but she takes me for granted and I won’t tolerate this anymore. I have told her that I’m not happy, but she only seems to care about herself and what she wants to do. She’s okay and doesn’t see anything wrong with our marriage. I am leaving once she gets a new career because I know she won’t change. I became a Correctional Officer a couple of years ago, when the economy got bad and I lost my job. My wife keeps saying that I am now mean and cranky and blames it on working in the prison and everything else but her. It has nothing to do with my job. In fact, I enjoy my job especially after being out of work for almost a year. I keep telling her it is because of her selfishness, but she is determined to blame it on me. This really pisses me off! She convinced me to try marriage counseling, but nothing has changed and the counselor sucked. He said that no one else is responsible for our happiness. That’s BS! I am a family man and love my kids, but I’m worn out and refuse to take this anymore! Is it wrong to divorce when you become this unhappily married?
Worn Out Husband!
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