Subject: My Husband Prison Fling
Dear Shirley,
I have been married almost two years to my best friend of many years who is currently incarcerated in prison with a release date of 2022. I married him while he was in prison and vowed to stand behind him during his incarceration. I recently gave him the okay to write other women while there especially since the women he deals with usually provide for him financially. I am okay with this happening, however, I did express some boundaries in order for this to take place. My reason for doing so had to do with the fact that I wanted him to understand I am not jealous or insecure and I wanted him to have his space as a man. The cost of taking care of someone in prison can become expensive and I have not been able to send him the things he needs because I am having a hard time financially. He recently started writing his ex who is a nurse, however, he did not tell me about it until after they had exchanged a few letters, and I feel like the only reason he did is because he felt like I would find out through a third party first. One of the boundaries I set was I had to know about the communication “before” it took place and not after. He sent me one of the letters she wrote and some of the things she said led me to write her and inform her of certain facts such as I am not his girlfriend as she thought, but his wife. The letter was not disrespectful, it simply stated that if she wanted to send him money even though she knows that he is married that is fine with me, that is less that I have to send. He claims he told her that he was married but by the looks of the letters I saw that he seems to be telling her something different. He states that he only wants to write her so that she can send him money and stamps. Her letters to him have been very disrespectful toward me and I feel that she has in fact forgotten her place. He is quick to anger if anyone else says or does anything disrespectful to me, however, he has asked me to not write her again. I really have no reason to, but I feel like he has no regard or respect for me as his wife to even approach me with such a request. I am starting to question his reason for wanting to marry me. I have stated he can continue to write her and I do not want the letters because I feel like he has broken the rules of the agreement. Please give me some advice.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
The open and honest wife
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