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Strawberry Letter: Me vs. My Inner Mad Black Woman

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I have been married for 19 years with 2 children that are not my husband’s children. We both have great jobs and have made a happy home and he has helped me raise the kids. They want for nothing and know no other father than him. However the 800 lb gorilla in the room is that he has always wanted his own child. For whatever reason, and not for lack of trying and having fun doing it, I have not conceived. I guess his feelings were so strong that he did go out and create a new life that is due very soon. He did come and tell me what happened and my inner mad black woman showed up and when all was said and done, he was out of the house and we are done. He has said sorry and has tried everything to get us back on the right track, but I was mad and hurt. I still surprised that I haven’t taken him back. I was sick with grief and thought I was going into a depression so I went to the doctor to see if all was well. My Lord is a comedian, so low and behold, the doctor told me I’m pregnant with twins. I have forgiven him, but it still hurts. I am torn between telling him and getting back to where we were, but my inner mad black woman wants to not tell him and carry on because of what he has done. He is a great man and I know he will do a great job with them, as he has done with my other children. I miss him and love him, but can I truly forgive him and get past it? My Girls tell me drop the hurt and pray and bring him home. I have tried, but after 19 years, the hurt cut very deep. What should I do? I would really like an outside opinion.

Thank you.

Me Vs. My inner mad black woman

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