Strawberry Letter: Frustrated [AUDIO]

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Dear Steve Harvey and Shirley,

I WOULD LIKE TO SAY HELLO AND GOOD MORNING TO EVERYONE. I WENT AND PURCHASED YOUR BOOK, “ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN.” I JUST WANTED TO KNOW, COULD YOUR BOOK HELP IMPROVE A MAN THAT I’VE BEEN DATING ON AND OFF? TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, MY EX HAS BEEN BUGGING ME TO GET MARRIED. I DO WANT TO GET MARRIED BUT, NOT TO HIM YET. HE ASKS ME WHY AND I HAVE TOLD HIM HE’S NOT READY FOR ANOTHER MARRIAGE.

FIRST OF ALL HE IS STILL MARRIED AND SECONDLY HE’S BEEN MARRIED TWICE ALREADY. WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ABOUT FIVE YEARS. HE HAS NO JOB AND HE’S BEEN UNEMPLOYED FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW. I DON’T THINK HE’S EVEN TRYING TO GET A JOB. HE’S WORKED ON AND OFF BUT HE’S USED TO WOMEN TAKING CARE OF HIM. WHEN WE GOT TOGETHER HE TOLD ME HE WAS MARRIED BUT SEPARATED. THAT RIGHT THERE SHOULD HAVE KEPT ME GOING BUT, HE WAS A NICE LOOKING GUY. SO I GAVE IT A SHOT. WE HAD OUR PROBLEMS.

BACK THEN I WANTED TO MARRY HIM BUT HE ALWAYS KEPT SAYING THAT HE COULDN’T GET THE DIVORCE BECAUSE HIS NAME WAS ON THE LEASE. ONE LIE AFTER ANOTHER. SO AFTER THE FIRST YEAR WE MOVED IN TOGETHER. HE LOST HIS JOB BUT WAS GETTING UNEMPLOYMENT. HE WOULDN’T HELP AT FIRST BECAUSE HE SAID HE HAD TO PAY THE REST OF THE BILLS OFF. THEN HE ALSO WANTED TO BUY HIS TREE’S, SO I LET IT GO ON. WRONG MISTAKE, BECAUSE I WAS PAYING ALL THE BILLS AND HE WAS ALWAYS LYING ABOUT SOMETHING. I GOT TIRED. WELL ANYWAY, HE CHEATED ON ME NOT ONCE BUT TWICE.

I PUT HIM OUT AND HE SAYS HE LOVES ME AND WANTS TO COME BACK. BUT I STILL SAY NO, CAUSE HE’S NOT DIVORCED AND HE SAID HE WILL GET THAT WHEN WE GET BACK TOGETHER JUST ANOTHER LIE TO GET BACK WITH ME. NOW HE SAID HE HAS CHANGED AND WANTS TO BE THE MAN I NEED. BUT MY QUESTION IS, IF I’M WHAT HE WANTS, THEN WHY HASN’T HE FOUND A JOB, STOP SMOKING THOSE “TREES,” AND GET THE DIVORCE BEFORE WE GET BACK TOGETHER?

I TOLD HIM WHAT I WANT IN A MAN; LOVE GOING TO CHURCH, FAITHFULNESS, HARD WORKER, UNDERSTANDING, AND A PROVIDER. HE KEEP SAYING I GOT STUFF WITH ME, CAUSE I WONT SPEND TIME WITH HIM. I DON’T SPEND TIME WITH HIM BECAUSE (NOT WANTING TO PUT HIS BUSINESS OUT THERE) BUT NOT ONLY DOES HE NOT HAVE A JOB, HE HAS NO LICENSE, NO CAR, AND HE’S FORTY ONE YEARS OLD. I WANT A MAN THAT IS ALREADY TOGETHER.

I WANTED TO KNOW, COULD YOUR BOOK HELP HIM OR IS HE A LOST CAUSE?

SIGNED,

FRUSTRATED

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