Strawberry Letter 23: Speak Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace
Hello Morning Crew, Steve and Shirley
I am hoping for some good advice on this one. I am approaching 30, happily married to a great man and we have two beautiful daughters. We are trying our best to make moves towards our ideal life. One thing bothers me daily…my husband’s biological father has never been acknowledged by his mother.
She has only brought the subject up once to me and the person she says is not the real one. Apparently she was cheating on this man with her first babies daddy. I believe this to be true because her family members say so, my husband looks more like the man than his brother does, and even strangers compare the two. On top of everything the man lives across the street from my kids daycare, so I see him often.
I have no idea if he knows this child exists as my husband’s mother moved away after getting pregnant and stayed gone for years. I just want to know if I have a right to say something and if so how to go about it (phone call, letter, in person)? Steve I know you stand up for fatherhood and he’s about your age, what would you want?
PS. We have no hard feelings and we don’t need anything from this man. I just want my kids grandfather to know that they exist and my husband is a man any parent would be proud of.