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Strawberry Letter 23: Playa Don’t Want To Be Played

Dear Morning Crew,

Here’s my dilemna. I’m seeing a friend who I work with. I’m seperated and she’s divorced but has an actual boyfriend who is kinda well off. I’m just a working man. She and I get along and have been for a long while. I do more for her than I do for myself. We exchanged a lot of emotional confessions about each other and I’m her “secret.”

Our job doesn’t know and neither does her family. Most guys wouldn’t openly admit how they feel about a woman but I’m not most guys. I love and need her. I’m in my early 40s and shes in her late 40s. Problem is she’s sex from me and nothing else. I’ve tried to get her to go out with me but outside of sex and shopping for me she doesn’t want anything from me. She’s given me a car, clothes, money but won’t let me do anything for her. We argue about it.

Most men would say I’m a black man who got it made but I’d truly give it all back if I could only have her heart. She says I have it but I don’t feel that when she’s dating some rich dude and keeping me as a secret. I truly love her and being a former playa I need to know how to handle this.

Keep it funny Steve! I’m a little on the emotional side.