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Sex Assault or Overthinking?

Good Morning Shirley & Steve!

I’m a 23 year old working woman who is madly in love with her 27 year old working man with whom I’ve been with for over 3 years. We have issues like any other couple but at the end of the day, we work through them together and are learning to love each other one day at a time. While we attempt to work on our issues and discuss our feelings together, there’s an issue that’s still lingering on my mind but I don’t know how to express it to him without hurting his feelings. One day, I went out with my friends and I drunk more alcohol than I was suppose to. Once I came home, I started to get sick and passed out. In the middle of the night, my boyfriend woke me up and told me to clean myself up. Confused, I asked him why. He says because we just had sex. Of course, I had no knowledge of it because I passed out because of the late night drinking. The next morning, I asked what happened the night before. He says that he came home, saw me in bed, and wanted to have sex. He said I didn’t move or talk but just thought I was really tired. (Even though there was a tall trashcan right beside the bed and apparently my head was halfway in it). Would you consider this a sexual assault? How can I tell him without hurting him, or scaring him to think that I’m labeling him as a “rapist”. As much as I love him, I know assault isn’t his intentions. I really am conflicted and just need some guidance so I can figure out how to get this off my chest.


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