Dear Shirley and Steve,
A few months ago I met the most amazing man during my lunch break. Since then we have had lunch everyday together and now dinner. He has cooked for me and Ive met his family and friends. They love me and I love them ALL! For the past 6 months he speaks of taking this relationship to the next level of living together and it perhaps leading to marriage. Ive never felt like this before EVER and I’m head over heels in love with this man but the problem with all of this is that I am married with 2 children. Im not in love with my husband. We got married because I was pregnant and we just continued on with life. I could have lived my life like this forever, I never thought that I would ever get lucky enough to feel love. I just lived my life for the past 17 years in this marriage resigned to life being this way. So I just kept my head down, stayed on my grind, raised 2 kids, ran a household and managed a career. Now Im in love for the very first time in my life and Im in my 40’s. I love my family but Do I tell my love and leave my husband or do I leave my love for my family? I am in somewhat of a quagmire and in dire need of advice. Please help!