Strawberry Letter: Why Do I Love A Habitual Cheater?
I am writing for your advice about how to successfully deal with my ex boyfriend of 9 years. I felt like we had the perfect relationship with the exception of the side women who always came into the picture. So to make a long story short, he cheated once…I took him back after a 1 year separation. He cheated again and had a baby…I took him back again. Same ole story…he cheated again and we stayed apart for 3 years. We stayed in touch during the 3 year break even though he lived with 2 of his side chicks. He continues to profess his love to me and as a dog who returns to his vomit, I take him back again. He told me that he had made so many mistakes and that he was sorry. He recognized the reason behind his cheating was substance abuse. He told me I was finally getting the man of my dreams, the one I had always prayed for. I truly believed that he had changed and we were making plans for getting married. Well after we get back together, no sooner than 2 months later he is having inappropriate calls with his ex-side chicks. So he claims. He would say he was bored and they occupied his time and that he would stop talking to them if it bothered me. The problem was he never stopped. One time one of the women indicated that she would always be a part of my life no matter what I did. At any rate, we recently got into an argument about who he was talking to on the phone and he used that as the excuse to leave and is now living with one of the women he cheated on me with. When he left he prayed that we would get it together so that we could one day get married. Since he has been gone, he has called me every day but I won’t answer. I don’t think that there is anything to talk about. Sometimes my heart goes out because I thought we fit in all the other places and he is a good guy but just is not true to his relationships. What is wrong with me that I still have feelings for him? How do you think I should handle this situation? How can I move on?