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Subject: My Partners Prefers Porn

Dear Steve and Shirley,

Steve Harvey I’ve read your book on “Straight Talk, No Chasers” and you emphasize about the cookie got me thinking about some issue I am currently having with my partner. First of all let me make it clear that my intentions of being in a relationship is long term, and I find that my partner can provide a happy future for me. However, when it comes to his “movies” issues, we would fight about it. I admit first-hand that I am not really a fan of my partner resorting to porn because I very much enjoy sex and I practically do not mind giving it any time. But I do have lack of self confidence because me and my partner did not start out good. He was with his super tall model type of ex and I am the short, chubby kinda person with normal face. He once made it clear to me he would not date any one under his requirements of tall, thin and pretty and I am the total opposite of that. So, whenever he watched his porn I get hurt (knowing it is not his fault) that all his girls in the movie are his type. And he would normally watch a few times in a week, like practically everyday. As the fight leads on he would tell me the reason he watch is because he said he would get bored with me for doing it with the same person all the time. What I do not get is, if it so then how are you going to marry a women who you would spend your whole life with looking at her everyday and making love to her most of the time? I do find that this is probably my own problems and that is why I need your help to explain it to me in a way I can understand what he is thinking and why he did what he did. I never reject him with the cookie in fact sometime I do ask for it. What is lacking here for my sex life with him because from where I am standing right now the sex worsen with every passing weeks. I am confused and lost and I hope you are able to make me understand more on how to tackle this issue soundly with both party having a win-win. I look forward to your reply, Mr.Harvey. I would like to thank you for the great book too.

Regards,

Joleana