Strawberry Letter: Is It Too Late
Good Morning Morning Crew!
I am a 48-year-old married woman. About 30 years ago when I was attending college, I had a brief relationship with a guy that lived in the local area nearby my campus. We were only intimate once and I regretted it as soon as it happened. I actually blocked out that mistake from my memory bank as if it never happened. I also I had a boyfriend that was attending a different college so we would see each other when we came home during the school breaks. I got pregnant with my son and NEVER considered anyone else being his father. My son gets his looks from me and his Dad looks very similar to my campus crush. I even had forgotten his last name over the years. In any event, for some reason, his FULL name popped up in my head a couple of weeks ago and out of curiosity, I began to search the internet for any information. Low and behold, he’s still in the same town, lives at the same address, and has a boatload of ARRESTS! I was shocked to find out that his rap sheet is so long! How could have I dated such a LOSER?? I know I was a lonely, horny college freshman but REALLY?? According to the public records, he has been arrested for shoplifting, possession of marijuana, larceny, domestic battery, etc. and all this occurring in the last 3 – 4 years! When I pulled up the pictures from the mug shots, I could clearly see where my son gets his light eyes. NO ONE in my family has those eyes. My son has had a great life with a loving father and has never wanted for anything. He’s also grown to be a great man, college graduate, very hard-working and independent. . Well, my question is, should I proceed to get in touch with this criminal after 30 years and say, Lets go get a DNA because you are the Father?? I know most would say the right thing to do is to let my son know the truth, and every child has a right to know their father…but…My son has known his Dad as his Father ALL of his life. Why disrupt his life with all this confusion because I made a huge mistake years ago? I cannot see any value in bringing this sperm donor criminal into our lives. I cringe at the thought of what would have happened if this jail-bird would have been the influence in my son’s life from day one.
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