Subject: Divorce or Cheat?
Hello Shirley and Steve,
I am a 45-year-old African-American and my wife is a 43-year-old African-American. I’ve been married to her for 5 years now. This is my 2nd marriage. We have a 4-year-old child together. My present wife and I am a very attractive couple. I am 6 feet 200lbs and she is 5’8″ 140lbs. We both are well dressed people and take care of our bodies. Church, family values, hard work, sharing the load, we believe in all that. But here’s the issue. We dated 2 1/2 years before we got married and I got all the cookie I wanted and desired. After the marriage, things slowed down which I anticipated due to the adjustments of marriage. We went from every other day to once a week. I still romance, bought flowers, cooked candle light dinner, gave bath and message. I even sent her an invitation in the mail to meet me at our favorite spot after work. Sometime it seems like the perfect moment and other times she made me feel like she wasn’t into it. After the baby was born, it went to once a month or special occasions only. She claims she just doesn’t have the desire some nights or just plain tired. I asked her several times if I did or didn’t do something. She says no and each excuse is typical (headache, tired, sleepy, ECT). My gut feeling tells me she is not cheating but just content with having a good husband, house, children and career. Shirley and Steve, I have tried everything!!! I cooked more, clean more and spent more time with our child. Thinking this would be less things for her to do and take the excuse of being tired away. We did a weekend away and she made me feel like she was doing me a favor. I asked once more since then for a quick nooner and she told me she was too sleepy and wait till later. I told her if she don’t come to me, I will not ask again. It’s been 3 months now. Women have always flirted with me, but I never paid any attention because I love my wife. But now, even my ex-wife begin to look good all over again. Especially since she was good in this area of the relationship. I find myself flirting back more and more but don’t want to cross that line with anyone, because no one wins if that happens. I don’t want another divorce but at this point, I am not ruling it out….what to do??? Sign can’t get it at home
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