Subject: Cheated, and Now Pregnant By A Man I Am Not In Love With!
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I’m in what i think is a real messed up situation.
2 years ago i met a man and instantly fell in love with him.
after dating for a couple of months we got involved and he eventually moved in with me. Everything was going good, the sex is off the chain and he pays all of my bills. He bought me a brand new car and he just does everything for me. I have a very good job that pays me over $20 an hour and he knows that i’m not with him for what he’s doing for me because i can hold my own, but he says the way he was brought up is that a man is supposed to do everything for his lady. Now, to the real reason for my letter. A few months ago he started coming home late and sometimes even sleeping out. So one night i decided to wait on him in the parking lot to tell him my mind…he didn’t pull up until 4:45am. I was so furious i ask him for my keys and tell him not to come back to my house. He left and we didn’t speak for a few days. I went away for 2 weeks and while on my vacation he called me every day and beg me to take him back. So when i got back i told him that he could come back home. Exactly 3 days after i took him back, he slept out again. This time i was so furious and i called him the following day and asked him to just release my heart and stop playing games. He said he has something to tell me and when he tells me i might not want to be with him again. So we met up and he told me that he got another lady pregnant and he was trying to convince her to do an abortion but she refused. So the reason why he had been acting like that towards me is because he feels so guilty. I tried to act calm and told him to call her so i can speak to her woman to woman and hear what she has to say…when he called her what she told me, literally had me stop breathing for a minute. She told me that they were not in a relationship but they have been messing around for 6 years and she’s keeping the child. She also told me that throughout the entire 2 years that me and him have been together he has been sleeping with her. Now mind you i have never cheated on this man, never even looked in another man’s direction. I decided not to leave him but i just know the type of person that i’m dealing with. After not sleeping with him for over a month one day i decided that i wanted to have sex with him but i will not do it without a condom, so i asked him to go to the store and get condoms…he started arguing with me saying that i am the one that wants to use it so i should go and get it. We got into a big argument about it and he left.
Out of anger and frustration, i called this guy that i have known for a while and ask him if he wanted to meet up and he said yes. So i went to his house and we had sex for the first time. Now almost 2 months later i think i might be pregnant by this man. He is a nice guy, has a very good career and does not have any kids. He is begging me to keep the pregnancy but i’m so confused right now because even though we have not been having sex, i’m still in-love with my man, we still live together and he has been acting right since the last fight we had. The girl that’s pregnant for him even called his phone crying and said he has abandoned her since i found out about the pregnancy. Now i’m caught up in this crazy situation and i don’t know what to do. I would feel really guilty and selfish to do an abortion because this man does not have any kids and he really wants a child. But i am not in-love with him, i just slept with him because i was mad at my man.
Please help me STEVE & SHIRLEY!!!!
Sincerely,
CONFUSED
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