Strawberry Letter: Friend or Foe
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am in a strange dilemma. About 2 years ago I met this guy in a city that is about 1 hour from where I live. Since we both have busy schedules our relationship was strictly text, phone calls and email. About a month later we finally had the same day off so we made plans to have dinner and go see a movie. He came and picked me up and we went on our first date. He was the perfect gentlemen. It was nice! We continued to talk.
Two weeks later he came over and we just ordered pizza and watched movies. Well that night we slept together. The next morning we went our separate ways. We still talked but because we were both busy we drifted apart. Talking sporadically. Basically the thrill was gone, but it was mutual. I was 100% okay with it. I just chalked it up to us having a strong sexual desire toward each other. Fast Forward to a year ago. I was selling my spare bedroom set and a good friend of mine was interested. We made arrangements for her to pick it up. When they came to pick up the bedroom set her man of 12 years was with her. She introduces us and when he lifts his head its HIM! We shook hands and played it cool but I was so furious. I could not speak besides barely muttering a hello. Later that night he calls me.
Once I realize its him I think he is calling to make sure I am not going to tell her. NOPE he tells me that once he saw me again it brought back all these old feelings and he wants to start seeing me again! I hung up. He called me 5 more times. One day my car broke down and I asked her for a ride. She came and got me and he was in the car. She had a doctor appointment and said she was going to have him drop me off at home, so she could make her appointment. After she went into the doctor office and me and him are heading to my house he keeps touching my arm and leg telling me he needs me and misses me. I was so pissed that once I got home I called her but I did not have the heart to come clean. She has become one of my closest friends but how or should I tell her that #1 I slept with her man, not knowing it was her man and #2 that he is still trying to have sex with me. I have blocked his # from my phone but he still finds a way to contact me. Plus he calls my job. I do not want to get a new cell # I have had this # for the past 13 years and I do not feel like I am the one that should have to make the change. Should I tell her or not? I know once I do we will no longer be friends and that hurts because I value our friendship. Plus he and I both know she will never leave him. He has cheated on her before. I also think since he is so comfortable feeling up on me and he knows I am close to his girl that he must have messed with one of her friends before.
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