Strawberry Letter: Does Thirst Always Win?
Hello Steve and Shirley,
I am a 31-year-old woman who lives in Pensacola, FL. I am college educated, have a good job, and I am gorgeous I might add! I’ve never been married and I have no kids as well. So here’s my dilemma. One of my married friends and her husband invited me to a fight party at their single friend’s house. She told me there were probably going to be a lot of fine single men there so I agreed to go!
When I got there I ended up flocking to the host of the party because he was cool, and all the other guys there were at least 10 years older than me, and he was around my age. So we had cool conversation and we vibed but I wasn’t attracted to him, I thought he could really be a cool friend. So after the fight party, my friend, her husband, the guy and I all went out to eat. He paid for me, we had a nice time, we exchanged numbers and then I went home. A few weeks later he invited me and friends over to another party he was having and this time there was nothing but fine men all around that were MY AGE!
In the beginning of the party he was making little comments that led me to believe that he was kinda in to me and I just brushed it off. As I mingled, I ended up developing a connection with one of his friends that I was attracted to from the very beginning, he was fine! By the end of the night, with a little help from some “liquid courage,” we ended up making out. So the next day that guy called me and we had a brief but promising conversation, but then I called him later and he didn’t answer. Days went by and nothing from him. This dating thing is so frustrating to me because I never know, what I should do or say? How far I should go and etc?
I really haven’t come across someone in a long time that really met all the requirements. I mean he is 34, never been married, no kids and has a great career! No kids are my biggest requirement and it is hard running into someone who is that age with no kids and did I mention he was fine! I don’t know if he feels a certain way because his friend might like me a little, or if he’s just not that in to me, or if he’s just plain busy. I’m an old fashion kind of girl. So, I don’t know if I should take the initiative in 2012 or just mind my business if he’s not trying to make more effort. I always hear the phrase about life that says, “Thirst always wins.” If you were looking at relationships would that apply to a girl who is interested in a guy or would I just be setting myself up for failure? What I get from the phrase is, whatever you want don’t be scare to go for it.
So I need your advice. I am ready for love like that India Arie song and it’s been 4 years since I’ve been in a good relationship. I’m yearning, please help!
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