Strawberry Letter: My Cousins & My Men
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I have been with guy #1 for the last seven years. I started having a sex fling with guy #2 four years ago. Guy #1 use to date cousin #1 three years before I met him. I didn’t know it until she was playing on his phone and he thought it was me calling from my grandma house. Cousin #1 and my grandma was the only people at home, so I asked him did he know cousin #1; and that’s when he told me. So I continued to see him, because that happened and ended before me.
The problem with him is that he wants me to get on birth control to please him sexually with no glove. I told him if he wanted that, then I want a house and an engagement ring. One night we both showed up at the same club, he didn’t even speak to me; but he came to me, gave me a cigar, and told me to give it to cousin#1. I was pissed. I don’t smoke!! I politely gave it to him and told him to do it his damn self.
After that I broke it off with him, cause he lied and told me he never talks to her. Now guy #2 and I was lusting cause it sure wasn’t love. I never would have left guy 1 for guy #2. And he would have never left his baby momma for me! We had strong feelings for each other!! If I needed something I could always get it from him and if he needed something he could always get it from me. But that same night at the same club, guy #2 grabbed cousin #2 by the hand and took her to the dance floor. Cousin #2 don’t know that guy #2 and I are sexing around. It was our little secret. But guy #2 knew cousin #2 and I are first cousins. He hurt my feelings so bad!
I confronted him and asked him was he having sex with her. He looked me directly in my eye and told me no. I broke it off with him to. But Steve the killing part of this is that cousin #2 has children by guy #2. And yes they know! Cousin #2 baby daddy left her for cheating with his cousin.
Steve, did I do anything wrong by leaving these men? I’m 26 with a Master’s Degree in Education, I have no children, my own house, and car. I’m sure I can find someone better out there for me!!