Strawberry Letter: When Man Code Goes To Far
Hello Morning Show,
I am a 36-year-old father of a 6-year-old girl and beautiful wife. We have been together 8 years living in Georgia. Just recently, I have been going out of town a lot due to my job. Sometimes up to 3 weeks at a time. Back in February I was scheduled to work in Mississippi. Now before I left, my friend who is also from Mississippi asked me to get in touch with his female friend who still lives there and get her number for him so he can call her. So once I got there I found this female friend, got her number for him, and saved it on my cell phone under her nickname.
Ok, fast forward, 5 months later… My wife was going through my phone and looking at all the occupants within my address book. Once she came to an unfamiliar name I completely went into lie mode. I said it was a number to a food delivery I was using while I was working, grabbed the phone, and deleted the number even though it was not even initially for me. I continued to produce lie after lie thinking she would just drop it but, it made things worse because it was starting to not make any sense at all. You see I was protecting my homeboy because he is married and his spouse is a friend of my wife. My wife proceeded to get on our cell phone account and look up the number in which she noticed one call made out to that number from my phone. Of course she called the number but nobody answered on the other end but a generic voice mail greeting.
At that moment I completely sold out my friend and told her the whole story. I feel bad for doing that and it seems like I broke all man code but, when it comes to my marriage some things have to give because I really love my wife. I asked my wife not to blow it up any further than what it is especially, if there is only one call from my phone. Now my wife is skeptical of me for hanging out with him and she says she does not completely believe this is how it went down. She still thinks it was a number for my use.
What I am asking is, how can I get things back in order without blowing up my friend’s spot but, also protecting mine and gaining that trust back that we once shared between my wife and I?
Signed not trapped in the closet but got one foot in there.
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